Guest Post: Why Bondage Frees People From Chronic Pain

I still remember it now. I’d sat down to my daily breakfast apple & cinnamon pancakes and a cup of tea when the email came in: Media interview.

A media interview?! I’d never had a media interview before. I mean I’d done a guest post before, and a few social blogger interviews, but a media interview?! This was serious stuff! I was shaking as I read the email and thought about how to reply. How do you reply to these things?!

“This is all you!” Matt said proudly. I smiled at him in disbelief. Yes, he’s right, this was all me, this was just all me.. well… being me.

To be honest, the post that caught Monica Karpinski’s attention wasn’t even one that I’d really thought about, or hadn’t even planned. It was in response to one of PoojaG’s guest posts and I’d sort of written it and let be that be that. Once again, it was one of those posts that had an overwhelmingly popular reaction – not least now a little bit of media interest!

But humbled, shocked and unbelievably nervous, I hesitantly agreed to answer Monica’s questions.

I asked her to email them to me as I find it easier to answer questions by email. My hearing isn’t what it could be sometimes and so if email or text is an option, I will always take that option. I’m not completely deaf – not by a long shot – but I do need people to face me when they’re talking to me, so that I can lip-read. When it comes to telephone conversations with unfamiliar voices, sometimes I struggle.

It all went quiet for a time, until two weeks ago when Monica emailed me to tell me that her piece is now live (email required) on sexual wellness platform, Giddy

Unfortunately, due to a bit of a lack of clarity, my voice is really one of a few and as such, my only real contributions come in when it comes to stress and BDSM and when it comes to disabled people attending events. However, you can read my own thoughts on chronic pain and BDSM here, if you like. I was also a little frustrated by the way that I was supposed to have said things that I didn’t say in my interview. For example, I said in my original interview that it is worth contacting organisers and checking that events are accessible for disabled people, and that most organisers will do what they can to make events accessible for you. I did not say that there is nothing to stop a disabled person from attending an event, and I do believe in honesty and integrity when it comes to referencing other people. Even still, it’s a learning curve for next time, and I’m still really happy and humbled to be one of several disabled people talking about the many benefits of BDSM.

Alright lovelies, I hope you enjoyed this post. Be sure to check back later for another interesting kinky read! 😉

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen & Mart xx

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